Say no and define a boundary · D4.18

Review a boundary on your own terms

A boundary may need updating as circumstances change.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Name the current boundary and the need it protects.
2. Check whether your circumstances or preferences have changed, separating that from someone else's pressure.
3. Keep, tighten, or loosen the boundary as you choose and communicate the new limit clearly.

An example

I used to accept evening calls, but I now need that time free. Please message me and I will reply during the day.

Reflect

Does the boundary fit your present needs?

Next time

Review when you choose; flexibility is optional, not a relationship obligation.