Respond fairly to a mistake or setback · S5.9

Respond fairly when your actions miss a value

You acted differently from what you intended and want to consider repair without attacking yourself.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Name the value, the action, and any actual impact.
2. Describe the circumstances without using them to erase responsibility or condemn your whole character.
3. Choose one repair, clarification, or adjustment that is possible now.

An example

I wanted to listen but interrupted. I can acknowledge that and ask whether they want to finish their point.

Reflect

Does the response include both responsibility and realistic limits?

Next time

A value is a direction to return to, not proof that you must act perfectly.