Say no and define a boundary · S8.11

Pause before agreeing to a request

You sometimes agree before checking whether a request fits.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Notice the request and give yourself permission to answer later when that is possible.
2. Use a short holding response and check your time, willingness, and other commitments.
3. Return with a clear yes, no, or limited offer that reflects what you found.

An example

Let me check my schedule before I commit. I’ll reply this afternoon.

Reflect

Did the pause allow a more considered answer?

Next time

Prepare a holding sentence for situations where it would be useful.