Choose or review a commitment · D2.8

Check what an avoidance choice is doing for you

You are repeatedly putting off an ordinary situation and want to understand why.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Describe what you are avoiding and what avoiding it provides immediately, such as privacy, relief, or protection of time.
2. Consider the later costs and whether there is a real risk, unmet need, or practical barrier involved.
3. Choose a proportionate next step: maintain a boundary, change the task, get information, or seek help planning an approach.

An example

I delay asking a question because the instructions are confusing. I can send one specific question instead of tackling the whole task.

Reflect

Does avoiding the situation serve a needed boundary or block something you want?

Next time

Reassess with the facts of the situation rather than treating all avoidance as a problem.