Make room for feelings without judgment · D2.10

Allow a feeling while choosing a small action

You are waiting to feel completely ready before an ordinary action you want to take.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Name the action and the feeling that is present, without treating the feeling as an obstacle you must remove.
2. Decide whether the action is appropriate and manageable under current circumstances.
3. If you choose to proceed, take a small version while allowing the feeling to remain; changing your mind is allowed.

An example

I feel awkward saying thank you, and I can still send a brief sincere message if I want to.

Reflect

Was the action a willing choice or something you felt pressured to endure?

Next time

Adjust the step to preserve choice rather than increasing difficulty automatically.