Tell a fuller account of an experience · S8.17

Tell the boundary story with more context

A boundary conversation has become a broad story about who you are.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Write the broad story in one sentence.
2. Add the actual request, your circumstances, your limit, and the other person’s response as separate facts.
3. Write a fuller account that includes the difficulty without turning it into proof of your worth or a required growth story.

An example

I declined because I had another commitment. They were disappointed; that does not describe every part of our relationship.

Reflect

What does the fuller account clarify, and what still hurts or feels uncertain?

Next time

Use the account to decide what support or action you want.