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State a need or make a request · D1.7

State a request directly

You want to express a need without hinting or attacking.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

  1. Describe the relevant situation briefly and factually.
  2. State what you want in a clear, specific request or boundary.
  3. Allow an answer, negotiate what is flexible, and keep a boundary clear when it is not negotiable.

An example

Please check with me before borrowing my equipment. I need to know where it is.

Reflect

Would the other person know exactly what you were asking?

Next time

Rehearse the wording in a low-stakes setting if useful.

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