Listen and check understanding · S10.14

Ask how the other person reached their view

A disagreement has become an exchange of conclusions.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Ask which experience or information matters most to the other person's view.
2. Summarize their reasoning in words they recognize and let them correct it.
3. Explain your own reasoning and identify any point of agreement, difference, or missing information.

An example

What experience makes this option feel less reliable to you?

Reflect

Can you explain their reasoning even if you still disagree?

Next time

Use the clarified difference to decide what to discuss next.