Pause before choosing an action · D3.5

Check an urge before choosing a different action

An emotion is urging an everyday action you are unsure about.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Name the urge and check the relevant facts, risks, and likely consequences.
2. Decide whether the urge fits the situation and your priorities; doing the opposite is not automatically better.
3. If another action fits better, choose a small version and observe what happens.

An example

I want to cancel a routine planning call because I assume I will be criticized. I can first check the agenda and decide from that information.

Reflect

Was the alternative based on the situation rather than a rule to oppose every feeling?

Next time

Review the outcome and seek individualized guidance for situations involving significant fear or risk.